Thursday, 17 November 2016

10 Things I've Learned in my Mid Twenties

Its kind of a frightening prospect finding yourself slap bang in the middle of your 20s when it feels like just yesterday you were celebrating your eighteenth birthday party by drinking tequila shots on an empty stomach and then violently throwing up into a toilet bowl in some mediocre nightclub in your hometown. Life definitely goes by far too fast after you leave school and make efforts to become a real adult but that doesn't mean its all bad. I've learned some of the most important lessons in this stage of my life and I'm probably the happiest I've ever been...

1. Your friendship group will shrink...drastically. When you are in your early twenties you tend to have a large group of friends some of whom are actually more 'drinking buddies' than real sincere friends, and as you get older you will find yourself being able maintain close and valuable friendships with people who actually care about your genuine happiness and well being.

2. You will gain weight. Those beers and fries you consumed endlessly aged 20 will definitely start to take effect on your body by the time you get to 24 or 25. Unfortunately our metabolism is slowing down and if we want to maintain a good physique we need to change our habits. Never when I was 21 and a size 6 would I have thought that I'd have to exercise 4 times a week to maintain a size 8-10 figure but that's what's happening.

3. You will learn to love your body. Despite gaining weight I definitely feel more comfortable with my body than I did when I was younger. I've learned the things that are most important to me when it comes to looking good and feeling confident and I definitely don't spend as much time comparing myself to others or wishing I was as skinny as Kate Moss circa 1996.

4. You stop trying so hard to please others. When I was younger I definitely thought the world revolved around whether people liked me or not. I would try so hard to make new friends and get along with people I worked with when in reality its just not possible to be liked by everyone. These days I just try to be myself and if people don't like it then that's up to them I'm not going to apologize for who I am.

5. You will discover a new found appreciation for mum and dad. When you get older and have to fend for yourself you realize just how hard you were on your parents. I was an absolute brat as a teenager and definitely wish I had been kinder and more appreciative of the things my parents did for me. I might not have been cool because I wasn't allowed on the MSN past 7pm but they only had my best interests at heart.

6. You put your happiness before 'success'. I'm not entirely sure why but for some reason our younger versions of ourselves always picture a five year plan which includes education, travel, a career and a family but it very rarely happens like that. The best thing about growing up is learning to prioritize these things and try to create your own version of success and happiness. I have friends and acquaintances who have found their way in the world doing various things such as travelling or becoming stay at home mums and that is the beauty of life. I actually find more happiness writing this blog than I have in many of the job opportunities I have had and that's not a bad thing!

7. You learn about what you really need in a relationship. That boy you dated when you were younger who promised you everything yet never replied to your texts is now chasing mediocre women on tinder while you have a happy relationship and future ahead of you. Everyone told you it would happen when you took three months to get over him and now it has happened. It's only by being young and silly and most likely involving ourselves in terrible relationships that make us realize how nice it is just to be with someone who doesn't bring endless drama into our lives.

8. You stop being bitchy. When I was younger I was definitely more harsh on other girls than I should have been. I'm so ashamed of some of the things I said about girls I didn't particularly like and I think insulting someone's appearance is a particularly nasty, bitter and cruel thing to do. These days if I don't like someone I just don't talk about them because they don't impact upon my life.

9. You somehow have less disposable income. If there is one valuable life lesson I have learned by this point in my life it is definitely the true value of money. There are so many things to pay for in this stage of adulthood that your earlier years didn't demand of you, particularly if you had quite generous parents. Taxes, phone bills, petrol, rent, credit cards and everything else in between. Also if you went to university you are probably now paying back that enormous student loan that you spent on beer and pot noodles.

10. You realize that getting older isn't so bad after all. The prospect of becoming an actual functioning adult used to scare me to no end when I was younger. I used to think that staying in on a Saturday night to watch Strictly and wearing tights on a night out were the makings of becoming an old lady but here I am happily sitting on the sofa stuffing myself with Oreos at the weekends while my 22 year old brother sends me Snapchat stories from a night out in a club that looks like my idea of hell.

What do you think about this? Have you learned any valuable lessons in your twenties?
Lisa x


  1. Totally agree with everything in this post! I'm now 24, married and wondering where the last 4 years have gone and I've definitely learned a lot of these along the way x

    Always, Alice

    1. Life just goes way to fast and the older we get the quicker it goes! x

  2. I'm 23 and I agree with so many of these, especially the happiness versus success one. I was so caught up on being career driven and successful when I was younger and I didn't just want to "settle" for what I thought was a boring life, whereas now I love living a more ordinary life and just enjoying the simple things!

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    1. Haha yeah I was the exact same! Weird how suddenly your priorities change! X

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  4. So true! happiness comes first, you learn not to care as much, close friends and family are everything! such a relatable post hon!




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