Friday, 20 March 2015

Dealing with Life Envy

In the age of social media hardly anything feels private anymore. Having a baby? Lets upload those scan pics to Facebook shall we. What is that you have a new amazing job in Australia? Lets tell everyone else about it so they feel terrible about their own lives. Going on holiday? Just need to find the perfect filter for this Instagram of me sunbathing in Thailand. I could go on and on but you get the general idea. With so many people constantly uploading life updates about what an amazing and perfect life they have we all can't help but come down with a serious case of life envy sometimes. I hate to admit it but I'm the first person to feel like I want to stab something if I see that one more person on my news feed has decided to pack their bags and move to *insert amazing and probably very hot country here*.

My life has always been very backwards. I had a good job in publishing before I was even 20 but I didn't actually make a proper go of higher education until I was 21, and I've only just started thinking about my future career now. I look very young for my age and I still have people ask me if I'm still at school which isn't exactly great for job interviews when they are looking for candidates with a certain level of maturity. My CV is a very muddled state of affairs indeed. I've worked here there and everywhere but with no clear sense of direction, and have a great set of high school qualifications but I still haven't finished my degree. I guess it can be a little hard when I'm sitting in the library writing my essay and I find out someone has gotten themselves the opportunity of a lifetime working in the fashion industry in Barcelona.

Like everyone else I often forget that life isn't always the pretty picture that we make it out to be on the internet. That person who just bought their dream house probably had to sacrifice a lot and save for a long time in order to make their dreams come true, and that person who just qualified as a doctor similarly worked and studied extremely hard in order to get to that point. I think in the world of the internet we are now more than ever able to create our own identities and make people think we are living this amazing life when in reality everyone (yes even that super hot bikini clad chick currently touring Australia) has different struggles and hard times. We don't often see people at their worst because lets be honest why would we want to see that?! In this day and age our insecurities and flaws can all be wiped away with the help of a filter and the right lighting, but that doesn't mean they don't exist!

I think its okay that sometimes we feel a slight pang of jealousy at someone else's life. Its out minds way of telling us to work harder, and be the best possible version of ourselves. Every day when I see pictures of people teaching English in some exotic place I quietly remind myself that I can be in that very same place myself if I work harder and have a little patience. Its always good to feel a little envious of someone else because it just means that we want better things for ourselves. We always want what someone else has and we always assume that the grass is a little greener on the other side. Sometimes it can make you a better person to recognise that those people whose lives you envy probably envy your life at times too.

What do you guys think about this? Do you ever feel a little jealous of other peoples lives?


  1. I Definately know how you feel, I often feel it if people go on holiday to my dream place or to a gig I couldn't get to, or right now if they have a well-paying job while I'm unemployed, but...I know I'll have all those things one day and when I will have been worth the wait! :) x

  2. I completely agree with you! For me it's the baby announcements and greyscale pics of someone else's uterus! Leave it out for the love of God. Love your blog :-) xx

  3. This is such a great post! Thank you for sharing, I totally agree ♥
    Amy xx

    Perfect Imperfections

  4. very true, i get a little green eyed all the time but it makes me work harder! great post!

    Charlotte Harvs Style Blog

  5. this post is very important. i agree with you on how we only see pictures and what people want us to see not the 100% organic truth.

    great post!

  6. this post is very important. i agree with you on how we only see pictures and what people want us to see not the 100% organic truth.

    great post!


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