Sunday, 18 May 2014

Growing Up and Being Happy.

This might seem a little out of the blue for those of you that are used to reading about my latest foundation purchase, but every now and then I like to strip things back a little, and get some of my thoughts on certain topics out there. 

 For a while now I've been constantly thinking about getting older and what I want to do with my life, and since almost everyone I know isn't currently where they had imagined they would be I've become a little disheartened. This has happened to me a few times recently when I've been telling people about my blog and they have responded with: 'So why do you blog? What is the point?'. The point is I enjoy blogging because it makes me happy, it's something that I work hard at, and the fact I don't get paid for it doesn't bother me in the slightest. So, back to what I just said, it's starting to seem like everyone around me is getting married, and having babies, and buying houses, and it just all seems way over my head right now. When did everyone grow up? Did I miss the memo?! Sometimes it feels like everyone went straight from high school to full blown adult, and it scares me a little. But, yet I know that I'm not the same person I used to be. The crazy nights out are no longer a regular occurrence in my life. Partying doesn't make sense to me the way it used to, and neither does staying out till 6am fill a vacancy in my life like a meaningful job or a boyfriend. I now realize that they are something most people have to get through in life in order to work out where they want to go.

I might not be quite ready to become a proper adult with 'responsibilities', but I feel as though I'm starting to get there. I'm still young, and I'd like to carry on acting like it for a few years yet. If you don't make mistakes in your twenties; when are you going to make them after all. You have your whole life to realize your dreams may or may not come true, and that that amazing job you wanted maybe isn't so amazing, but right now I'd like to just have as much fun as possible before I really have to deal with the real world. There is seriously no point in trying to act older than you feel, and sometimes I still feel nineteen! Don't get me wrong I doubt I'll ever get the urge to stay out until 6am or call up girls from my Zumba class, because they are the only people who want to go out drinking on a Monday night. No, I think its more important to have a small group of girlfriends who will just hang out with you when your bored. I think its more important to go out because you want to and not because it will distract you from reality for a little while, and let you get lost before you have to decide what you actually want to spend your life doing. I think it helps to have goals and dreams, but not to the point were you live a totally delusional lifestyle. 

So, where does the happy part come in? I do truly believe that in order to be happy you have to go at your own pace. Comparing yourself to other people and the things they have is only going to make you miserable. Be happy for your friends when they get married/pregnant/a promotion, but remember that you don't have to be in the exact same place as them at the same time. While they may be ready to do these things there is really no rush and the more pressure you put on yourself the more disappointed you are going to be when things go wrong, and I can almost guarantee that not every detail in our lives will go to plan. You have to just accept the fact that life is full of surprises and they won't always be the good kind. However, when things do go your way just remember not to brag. Smug, I-have-an-amazing-company-car-look-how-successful-I-am Instagram pictures are distasteful, and basically designed to make others feel jealous of you and your so called perfect life, and less secure about their own. Always remember you are no better (and no worse) than anyone else, and be grateful for what you have in life no matter how it turns out. Not everyone who is deserving will be rewarded, and not everyone rewarded will be deserving, but I'm afraid that's just how life goes, and that most of us really do have to start from the bottom. 

Did this post make sense to any of you guys? Do any of you ever feel like this?

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  1. I love that quote at the end. Thanks for sharing it. I always forget about it til I read it again somewhere.
    PS. I didn't buy a house til I got married and I got married a few years later then I originally thought I would, I even dated my husband for almost 8 years before we actually got married. I think we needed that time to discover ourselves and experience amazing things, with each other and separate. I think that spending my money on having fun, traveling, taking random classes that had nothing to do with my degree, and just enjoying life and being happy was the best thing that I ever did. Now that I am married and have a house payment I don't get to do those things as often as I wish. I still do them, but I have to plan for them more now. So don't rush to grow up. I know your not cuz I could tell in your writing. Take your time and do the experiences and things you need to and I agree with the blogging thing. My husband doesn't even get it. I get asked all the time as well. What is the point? What do you want out of it? Isn't it a waste of time? No its not, I love it and its my journal of what I've been up to. I have met some amazing people through blogging too.
    Sorry for the rant.
    xx, Michelle

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    2. I can assure you I'm in no rush to grow up hahaha!! :)


  2. This is so true! I especially love the quote at the end :)


    1. It's a good one isn't it :)


  3. I absolutely love this post, and I couldn't have read it at a better time as I'm currently experiencing all these same feelings. I'm actually in the process of writing a similar type of post myself, but I really love the way you've worded everything (and your choice of quotes - I'm in love with the Lennon one :) ). I'm 22, almost 23, and about to graduate from college with absolutely no idea where I'll end up. I have no full-time job lined up, and honestly I'm not even really sure what I want to do. Social media can make it really hard, seeing other people's accomplishments every where you click. But like you said, everyone moves at a different speed, and even if someone is accomplishing something in one aspect of their life, everyone always has their own struggles and stresses that they have to deal with. I think your advice is perfect about being happy for people's accomplishments, and they can be happy when you make accomplishments of your own.
    I'm not exactly where I had thought I would be right now, but as my family and friends keep reminding me, when you're in your early 20's you are very much still young and growing up. I think this is the time in our lives when we're supposed to make mistakes and learn from them, and I know for me even if I'm not exactly where I thought I would be there is a lot I've accomplished so far as well that I'm pretty proud of.
    Anyways, sorry for the novel of a comment! Thank you so much for this post, as I said it was something I really was happy to read today :) As for blogging, keep doing what you're doing - your blog is truly great and you can tell with each and every post how much you enjoy doing it.

    xoxo Morgan //

  4. I loved this comment ! Its totally what I'm talking about, leaving uni/college and not knowing what you want to do or where you want to be should be okay, but people act like its the end of the world if you don't ! Haha even my parents! Good luck to you though, I generally think all of us bloggers have something to be proud of, something we put all our efforts into :)


  5. I love love love this post. I'm also the one that not quite ready to be a proper adult yet. I still make mistake but well Eistein made a mistake before he become famous wasn't he? What I actually know now is to make the most out of my life and be happy in every moment. Then thing will start to get in track.

    By the way, love John Lennon quote :) xx

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